Sorry my blorg is so wordy today, but this quote is killing me. Thank you, Lee, for explicating exactly my problem with every wispy, soft-focus, skinny white girl in a field blog and editorial. Naivete is easy to love because it gives everything and asks nothing in return, but why would you want to be the person who asks nothing? This dire selflessness of love is a plot device, a notion fit for sad Victorian consumptives, not for real full human people with needs and desires and agency of our own.
Let’s not collaborate in making ourselves the perfect, needless, quasi-love object for emotionally stunted malaise addicts and wound-lickers who wouldn’t know an equal if it knocked them on their asses. Let’s be real and present and strong and brave, and ever watchful for the person who sees this in us, like the ancient Persian astronomers who divined heroes and warriors in the din of the night sky, and who, finally, can love us for it.